My experience of being an INFJI’d like to share with you a few tidbits of my life that I think is driven by my personality. First, the saying why re-invent the wheel was not created by an INFJ. The way I see it is if people don’t reinvent the wheel we wouldn’t have development or the creation of new things.
InterestsExperiencing diverse tastes. Let’s take music as an example at any one time I could choose to listen to any of the following genres: Pop, Rock, Crossover, Classical, Choral or Opera. It is not as straightforward as I like any music because within every type there is music I enjoy and very much don’t. I have expansive tastes too when it comes to watching TV/Films and reading books. I can throw myself into my interests like crafting and genealogy and struggle to switch between them unless it is my natural rhythm to do so.
PeopleI can spend time addressing a large group of people confidently (as long as I believe the message I am delivering) but I am not an extrovert and need to spend some time in my own company afterwards to get my energy back. I dislike large parties unless there are people there I have known forever. I can absolutely dread a social occasion but enjoy it once I get there as long as I have some quality conversation.
PoliticsI find it difficult to be loyal to a political party, I firmly believe in a few policies of many of the parties, but at the same time, they all have ideas that don’t sit right with me. As soon as a party doesn’t deliver what they have promised (all of them who have been in power are guilty of this at different times), I find it hard to trust them again without a significant change of personnel.
How being an INFJ affects my FibroBefore my Fibromyalgia got to the point I could no longer class myself as reliable for work; I had a perfect job for an INFJ I was a work coach in a Jobcentre. I loved helping people to realise their potential and when someone didn’t have their heart in it digging below the surface to work out why. Before this, I spend time as a school teacher, another recommended INFJ career.
Raise AwarenessIn the early days, within about a month of getting the diagnosis of Fibromyalgia, I created this blog. The reality was I had developed a condition that I had scarcely heard of and the majority of people I knew, including my colleagues at work, were not aware. So it seemed obvious to me to find a way to help raise awareness. My logic being if I have to go through this I may as well use it as a teaching project.
Emotional PainThe most significant and painful side effect of being an INFJ with Fibromyalgia is when my symptoms flare-up due to emotional triggers. I recently wrote about How Emotions Impact Fibro following a roller coaster weekend. The Intuition and Feeling elements of my personality allow (or even force) me to be incredibly empathetic. Empathy can affect me when I am merely watching something on the TV, and I feel like I am really going through it with the character. The emotion is far more profound in real life, as an example, I went to a friends funeral recently. I was sad for the loss of this person in everyone’s life; I was also sad because my time calling this Church my second home is no more. Tragically the daughter of the departed is pregnant and when face to face with her (who was being amazingly brave) my heart just poured over. I find it very hard, if not impossible to hold back my emotions at these times. The stiff upper lip is another saying that is not made for INFJ’s.
I rarely cry for meInterestingly enough it is scarce I get upset for myself though. Scared yes, especially about medical procedures. I can count on one hand the times I have cried for myself rather than for someone else’s situation. The last time was when I had a little wobble when I was in the hospital (October 2016), and that was probably more linked to fear of the unknown than feeling sorry for myself. The previous occasion was on honeymoon (June 2015), and I talked about that in the Fibromyalgia and Weddings post.
I recently discovered that Kim Johnson of I tripped over a stone is also an INFJ with Fibromyalgia. Because of the rare nature of this personality type, I would love to know if there are any other spoonie INFJ’s out there and how your personality affects your health. Drop a comment below!